The description of the poop sandwich from a successful mentor was something that hit me. It was basically what John Kabbat-Zin says, "wherever you go there you are." We can rarely see our own blind spots, or hear our own language which can be unhelpful and frankly unkind.
You take your brain and thoughts with you everywhere, every time.
I had the pleasure of flying to Germany first class.
From the comfy seats to the wine pairings with the 3-course dinner and water (why do they not bring you enough water on the plane? ever?) I felt taken care of.
That is a momentary pleasure.
What if your brain flew first class all the time?
When you change the way you see the world, your perception of joy, wealth, pleasure, and purpose that is in every minute of your day. Every interaction, relationship, and choice going forward comes from this cup that overflows fun of possibilities and synergies.
Healing the past and building on the current and future you is what...
𝕎𝕙𝕪 𝕕𝕠 𝕨𝕖 𝕘𝕚𝕧𝕖 𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕡𝕠𝕨𝕖𝕣 𝕥𝕠 𝕡𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕨𝕖 𝕕𝕠𝕟'𝕥 𝕒𝕘𝕣𝕖𝕖 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙?
Because they are our parents, our partner, our boss, and even our kids and we just want to keep the peace.
Except that is exactly why you are here. It's to disrupt things.
You have a knowing, teachings, and wisdom that is here to be shared with others.
They won't like it because people don't like change. Even when it's good.
You can choose your hard.
Do you want to learn about your nervous system and how it can derail your best attempts?
Do you want to learn how to choose your feelings instead of having them just show up and take over?
Especially that perfectionist, co-dependant, or the "why me" martyred ones...
Do you want to learn how to create rather than take what you are served?
You don't have to choose anything. That results in a different type of hard, which is the one I think you may be familiar with.
It's the one that screams "I am meant for more!" It's longing to be heard.
Are you ready to have...
Are you having sticky thoughts that hang around and don't feel helpful? Perhaps have an air of self-righteousness? I sure can and I thought this could be helpful to help others move through the "stuck" feeling.
I'm speaking about the clearing of your mind-thoughts-beliefs.
When you are having a dark day, wrestling with troubles, fighting with a loved one it is REALLY hard to feel like you have a choice.
BUT YOU DO.
This is powerful. This is how you begin to FEEL powerful again is by choosing. You can choose to stay there BUT you wouldn't be thinking about it in this way if you did.
You can choose the emotion just above the one you are feeling.
This does 2 things. You still get to honour this feeling. It isn't bypassing, wishing, or affirming your way out of how it feels. The second thing is by choosing the feeling above you confirm to yourself you can move through your feelings, that you do have authority and control. It's confirmation that you have the ultimate...
It's MarLisa, the Juicy Life Coach.
I am wondering how you are doing? How has this unforgettable 2020 been with all of its highs and lows, pockets of joy, and helplessness been affecting you?
I have been personally involved in and sharing with my clients a lot of mindset work. Since I was a little girl I wondered how people could rise like a Pheonix out of some tragedies to become Doctors, start charities and simply become a wonderful human being while others had a seemly typical challenge in their life and they have allowed it to define why they "can't" and become their story. It can sound simple...
It's all about the meaning we attach to it. After sitting with this for a good few weeks I thought about all of the beliefs about parenting, being a spouse, MONEY, love, a friend, sister, the list goes on and on. I realized all of the residual thoughts left from my upbringing and how they certainly don't fit. How can we remove this from our nervous system,...
It's MarLisa, the Juicy Life Coach
I have been thinking about all of the graduates this year, even as my younger boys finish up Elementary school and speaking with Grade 12 graduates. It reminded me that sometimes when it is a cold, grey just ordinary day I like to stop and think "someone is having the best day of their life today".
It makes me feel so connected to this bigger world thinking about engagements, sweet sixteen birthdays, babies being born, traveling adventures, and graduating. After talking with a parent wanting to send off her daughter and friends with some worldly advice I created a book just for these young adults that you can access here, my gift to you. It's called "Finally, my real life can begin".
As my kids and these graduates are probably looking forward to keeping the books closed and having some unstructured time I invested heavily in more education. I really believe keeping yourself curious and open to learning is one of the...
It's MarLisa, the Juicy Life Coach
As restrictions are starting to be lifted in certain communities there is a bit of excitement and cautiousness about this new world. Have you been thinking about this as well?
Where I live we still practice distancing while walking and I came across someone who wanted our dogs to be distanced as well. Hmmm, I would never have even considered someone would put themselves on a walking trail where they wanted our dogs to distance. There would be no room for us!
This is the start of people re-introducing themselves to public places. I've been there the whole time but it seemed she had not. This re-introduction phase is going to require a lot of kindness and patience. I actually allowed it to bring some humor to my day instead of questioning why she placed herself in that situation. Choose your emotions friends, don't let them choose you!
I believe you are going to make choices that really matter to you. How you spend your...
Hey Beauty! It's MarLisa, the Juicy Life Coach
I am so proud of you.
You figured out a whole new schedule, system, and level of what is important to you. You basically took everything you have learned your entire life and had to tweak every single area: exercise, work, parenting, connection, self-care, cooking, entertainment, stress relief, sleep, and many more....
Things I got that may really be useful to you are:
I looked at the values I want my children to know and connect with. What our family values are. Now that I get to spend so much time with them playing, homeschooling and modeling there is no better time for me to show them what kindness looks like, why it's important, how they can give and receive it, how adults show each other kindness, why it's important and what to do when you are not feeling like you are being treated kindly.
That was really hard....
It was so hard because I was frustrated with my own feelings (not being listened to, spending 24/7 with people, trying...